Feel this Book! It's a Break-up Because It's Broken

I just read Behrendt's It's a Break-up Because It's Broken. I loved He's Just Not That Into You. I'm a huge non-fiction reader, not that I don't love fiction, it's just that apparently I like a little help once in a while. I have had a life long fascination with self-improvement and transformation. When I read He's Just Not That Into You I really felt just like Miranda on SATC. Of course, I haven't been in a relationship for a while so it was less scary to find out that my imaginary/TV boyfriends are just not that into me than for some of my girlfriends who just discovered that the guys they have been seeing are just not that into them. I was walking around my apartment jumping around, OH mY God, he's just not that into me! I get it. Sure it's a hard lesson but at the same time, kind of liberating. I can be the CEO of my love life. Also, I don't have to waste so much time and energy trying to figure out what X-guy is thinking of me. Greg Behrendt is really funny and charming and his point is men are NOT that complicated. If a guy likes you, it will be obvious. So obvious. The bottom line is that true love is not about strategies. Most people I know who found the one have said it just sort of happened. There was no elaborate Mission Impossible style-I-will-get-you-back-plan.

It's a Break-up Because It's Broken was co-written with his wife, who is smart and beautiful but of course. Looking at their picture on the back cover you can really see what a fantastic unit they are. Their energy exudes a feeling of rightness. They belong. They have what I want—love, chemistry, physical attraction, support, creativity—a rock n'roll spirit and probably great sex. Maybe they can comment on that more in another book. I like the style of the writing here, it's like spirituality for sarcastic people.

What any great self-help book tries to accomplish is to make you love yourself more, to empower YOU. Not an easy task after facing a rejection. The book makes you look at the break-up and post-relationship objectively. Did you really like that guy? Did you really think he was the one? For the writers, this isn't just a break-up it's a breakover, an opportunity to re-build and transform. It's a He-tox! Ha! It's been five years since my last serious break-up, while I'm wayyy over the guy, I still have some residual sadness. It's amazing how much energy I can exude out of myself when it comes to romance and the elaborate strategies!! Maybe I'll change my hair or workout and have a body like an anatomy chart and then I will make sure we both go to the same party. Oh the schemes! We women never have crushes on ourselves. I never sit around my apartment going, "Oh my God I just said the cutest thing!"

I would like Greg Behrendt to write a book about how to find the one. I'm definitely the type of person who would rather be alone than settle. It just seems that there are so many more women out there and so few men, so few great men. I've done the on-line dating thing and it didn't work for me. I've had a lot of single dates. Now I'm just sort of living my life, because I'm exhausted. People always say, you'll find love when you stop thinking about it but damn it, I'm always thinking about it!